Jaded vs. Optimism... You Choose

I’ve often wondered why people speak into existence things they say they don't want… And preface there conjunctive conclusions with, “but”…. I wonder if they realize that everything they said before the “but” becomes a lie upon the injection… (but – cancels out your intentions... i.e, I was going to the store, but.... (YOU GET IT).

Emotions are instant reactions that others are able to recognize… immediately. Becoming jaded is a process that's potentially undetectable until it's too late. It creeps up on you like vodka; you have a few shots and you’re not feeling anything, then bang, out of nowhere you're smashed. Being jaded is one's subconscious decision to be cut off from the rest of the world and yet one can physically be around other people but emotionally disconnected… Even if he/she still has a social life with friends and random short term relationships such as dating or casual sex this doesn't mean their not jaded. It's means they've found sublevel substitutions to help take their mind off of things for a while but when the party's over rebounding with whatever activity puts then right back where they started - Jaded!

Webster describes the term JADED as Tired, bored, or lacking enthusiasm, typically after having had too much of something.... world-weary, jaundiced, fed up, cynical, and overstimulated. What happens when we have too many options? Upon reflection, when I combine my age, my life experiences… I could take the high road here and say I’m jaded, but I shan't. I refuse to give that word power. I choose optimism. God loves me enough to protect me from excess pain and I feel blessed when he warns me… I had my feelings hurt before.... I could’ve thrown up my hands, in the end, I made a choice, their loss is anothers gain and my learning experiences are to be valued as such. I believe, that episodes as such makes one really appreciate the good people I do have in my life.

Let me share a story with you… When I was 8, I remember walking outside of the house and seeing my Grandpa, kneeling in the lawn, just looking at some flowers in our flowerbeds. He wasn’t weeding or feeding, them – he was just looking at them. Me, being a typical, inquisitive nature child,… I said, “paw-paw, whatcha doing”. Instead of getting swatted for my impertinence, my Grandpa, entertained my inquisition. Tippy (my nickname), "Every one of these flowers here came from the same momma plant. From a tiny little seed about the size of a grain of sand. I’m remember replying, “Like the ones down on Olcott”? He said, yes “Tippy” like Olcott…. only each and every one of them is slightly different.

I’m now 35 and I’m truly understanding what he meant. Everyone isn’t the same and shouldn’t be classified as such. Being jaded just reflects repeating the same old patterns. Since 92% of communication is about non-verbal & 8% is verbal, I vowed to learn what it takes to overcome "adversity”. After all, ones quality of life is determined by the quality of questions we ask ourselves. I've learned to fixed me and as my friend BB (Control What I can control)..., as I realized that bitterness and being jaded leads to fear, fear leads to the dark side and depravity to anger, anger to hate and hate leads to suffering. Who wan'ts all that... I never witnessed pessimism win a heart of greater depth. So too, it is not the will to love, but the will to prepare to love that makes all the difference.

When we look around in this beautiful world, with all its diversity and innate beauty – there is so much the universe has to offer us… Life is all about take risks with that someone WORTH SUFFERING for...Bob Marley.... It’s time to clear the mindset of the excess that creates rot. I’m no dummy, I recognize, it's impractical to trust everyone…. but leave a little room in your mind for the possibilities (Love Jones’n… )…. Being JADED is a habit! Break it... Live in the optimistic!


Measure not the work until the day is out and the labor done...


#Chinazaspeaks

I DUG HIM... UPON our FIRST...

Upon our first...

By Chinaza M. D...

Upon our first...

....conversation...there was instantly the desire within my heart, for there to be many more. Like that scene in Star Trek, where Spock was killed...because he had touched the radiation core.

Upon our first...

...meeting... my schedule was instantly rearranged and your card flew to the front of my rolodex. You must ride a broom to work, for I feel as if I dance within a hex...or a spell. But I knew that my soul was forever yours, and no longer available for sale.

Upon our first...

... Kiss... my tongue bragged to my teeth...about you. Your mauve gates welcomed me, until your ivory met my ebony...and we made songs that Stevie could never have penned. Maybe this is the sound the dripping juice made, as it fell from Adam's chin...depicting his very sin.

Upon our first...

... walk...my feet were taken back in time to before the fall of man, where we never walked, but flew w/ soft wings as God led. Your energy is like sacred scriptures written upon eggshells, and I choose to incubate our dreams instead.

I am like he was...just kill me, for I desire not to be free. But I long to be held in this moment until forever gets too old, and a new saga is unleashed.

I want to walk with you until we run out of earth, and yet I smile knowing that our steps will never cease.

Our first is like that first ray of light..after God had looked in the darkness, and spoken

Like the Kings, as they went to see the Christ child...and brought their most valuable tokens Like a new artist, turning on the radio, and hearing their music for the very first time... Or deaf lovers, after they made love...and their passion can only be conveyed by hand signs

Our first is like that...

It's like this...Like that over there...and all of that other

It's like the strength of the father, coupled with the love of the mother

The sound of the baby's steps...at her first attempted try

The orgasm so sweet...that it makes even the man to cry

Our moment reigns among mortals, as if it was a play that was written by Don Juan himself.

Somewhat like that cancer survivor, at hearing that they are now in perfect health

Our first...

So enchanted, so complete...and yet so exsquisite that I am like an addict...demanding more and forever was I hooked

Upon our first...I just knew the search was over, and from that moment...I had resigned to the desire to not look.

I was available to be his... but he would not have me...

For first... things first...

Deadly Dangerous Excuses....

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Luke 14:16-24 (Chinaza's translation)

There was a man who made some soul fool and invited many to come over. He sent his servant out to tell everyone that dinner was read. This man (the servant) was a part of the elite, possibly even royalty. Surely those that were invited came in expectation that this food was going to be aaaaaaaaaaaaamazing! Right! and were all just standing by waiting for the servant to knock on their door to alert them that its time. This, however, wasn't the case. Seemingly, every one that was invited had some EXCUSES to give the servant as to why they could not attend. Who in their right mind would do such a thing? Why would you reject the King? Surely God’s people would not do such things. Or would they?

Chinaza's message: How is that YOU can PROCLAIM to operate in a spirit of EXPECTATION and NOT SHOW when the feast is laid out at your feet? What’s even more interesting about this story is that these were the very same people who prayed for the very things they had (kind of like US).... , but oh, now you have it made in the shade, you think you've arrived, the King lay's out dinner (has a blessing in wait) and here YOU come with these EXCUSES: I'm sorry God, work came up (one was an investor or a realtor who said, in Luke 14:18 – I just bought a piece of land and I have to go see it – I pray you excuse me); WHATTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT... so the “man” who has a blessing that can trump what you already have – you gave an excuse to and you guessed it (they missed their bigger blessing)…

Excuses have been DESTROYING people since the beginning of man? WHY in the world do YOU keep making them?

Don’t you remember when Adam, concerning sin ( And the man said, The woman whom thou gavest to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I did eat.) … hmmm

Aaron concerning the golden calf ( And I said unto them, Whosoever hath any gold, let them break it off. So they gave it me: then I cast it into the fire, and there came out this calf.

Moses concerning going to Egypt (And Moses said unto God, Who am I, that I should go to Pharaoh, and that I should bring forth the children of Israel out of Egypt?)… Exodus 4:1 and Moses answered and said, But, behold, they will not believe me, nor hearken unto my voice: for they will say – the LORD has not appeared unto thee”.)
Gideon concerning deliverance from Midian ( And he said unto him, Oh my Lord, wherewith shall I save Israel? behold, my family is poor in Manasseh, and I am the least in my father's house.
The slothful man concerning going out ( The slothful man saith, There is a lion without, I shall be slain in the streets)
I'm JUST SAYING: He prepared the table and put in the work – ALL YOU HAD TO DO IS SHOW UP….

But instead …. But instead… you forced him to take back his invitation

Now the irony, those with the excuses.... who were SOooooo BUSY, HAD TO work, JUST couldn’t make time, said things like, I don't do things like that, I don't have time for this... I have a wife, I have a husband, I have a farm to attend to, I have land I need to see, I need to pray about it… blah blah… blah.. (those people who “thought they had it going on” MISSES IT)… and as a result, the man sent his servant BACK out to extend the invitation TO OTHERS so that his house would be filed (SO HE TOOK YOUR BLESSING AWAY - YOU CAN'T GET IT BACK and he gave it to those who would really appreciate it (WITHOUT EXCUSES) – would you know the man went to the streets and found THE BLIND, THE LAME, THE HALT… those who weren’t consumed with their possessions, their busy schedules, their family life, their false images and persona's – but those who would really appreciate the BLESSING…and he BLESSED THEM...

Conclusion: GET IT TOGETHER! What kind of excuses have you made? Are you going to continue to miss out on some opportunities because you have failed to accept the invitation(s) extended to you? Drop the excuses or continue to miss out on all HE has for you - Get back to GOD!

Oh and by the way, for all of you who have given me excuses! Thank you.... Please know. I still have those gifts that will change your life? www.thefirmblackout.com – and all are welcome. Did I mention, we don’t accept excuses - either (one man's trash is anothers treasure! Excuses are the tools of the incompetent! Where there is a will – there is a way! The danger in excuses – is lethal to ones life….



Chinaza says!

Your EXCUSES are KILLING ... YOU

It's a scorching morning here in Atlanta. I sit in Starbucks and I reflect on where God has allowed me to go, the people He has allowed me to meet, the work I've been blessed to do and the things He's allowed me to accomplish - I came to the conclusion a long-time ago that NOTHING, I do or have done is, has been, or was ever about me. It's about YOU (OTHERS). It’s a blessing to be used to impact economic and social change and it’s ever so empowering to aid in the termination and/or shift of the poor, excuse ridden mindset. It’s an anatomic rush... when you participate in and see lives changed and your able to LIVE on PURPOSE! I HAVE FOR THE MASSES, A SOLUTION and I MUST SHARE IT!

NOTE: DON'T WAIT UNTIL I COME TO YOUR CITY - TAKE ACTION NOW! ....

However, I'm led to share a few things first... for critics, skeptics, naysayers, excuse makers. The lifestyle I live must be shared and having been charged with helping more people get to this side, – the “mindsets of comfort, poverty and excuses must be combatted".

Why are we turning a blind-eye to our own potential and our community’s needs, when SOMEONE is depending upon YOU/ME/US to show up? Why are we turning a blind eye to helping OTHERS? Amazing enough, none of us are blind to the increased crime rates, the impoverished education systems that we DUMP our children into, lay-offs, increased unemployment rates, welfare reform, hunger and/or healthcare issues. We participate gladly in economic downfalls, we stay silent and fall IN LOVE with a broken system and as a result we remain trapped in the modern day form of slavery. Due to fear of loss - OUR INACTION and SILENCE is killing US!

WE WATCH all these things happening before our EYES and yet we become gossipers about the problems; spectators in our own demise. YET, the moment a solution comes knocking on our doorsteps that can change lives (including ours) -- WE disappear and hideout with the masses (those 90 percenters)... then have the gall to become skeptics, critics, analysts, traditionalist and as a result we remain STUCK in our coffins. Amazing how quick we can draw on our potential to say NO, NOT FOR ME, NOPE, I’m GOOD and base our objections on what didn't work for OTHERS! We kill our potential - because the truth of the matter is WERE afraid change and success and FAIL at recognizing the very things we've sought out the universe for.

The Alchemist says - the Universe will conspire to bring you all that you ask for. Good, Bad or Indifferent!

If, you're an organizer, minister, pastor, promoter, activist, wife, husband, mother, father, sister, brother or a human over the age of 18! YOU are accountable! You have the capacity to ride this wave in! You’re not reading this by accident! This is divine appointment! It’s okay if you don’t agree. But you have the info and now your a responsible. It's time to SHIFT! Move out of your own way and MOVE forward. PERIOD!

QUESTION IS….

How long will we witness the masses suffering, and PROCLAIM, its NOT MY PROBLEM. IT is your problem... you have tools to give... to those looking for a handouts or a hand-ups! Instead of kicking people who are down, YOU are responsible for educating and leading from the front and being the change we know is needed.

Again, this is just one woman's opinion that can't be sugar coated it, as enough people have done that and as a result, many die at 21 waiting to be buried by 65 – because they stopped dreaming and have let the opinions of others suffocate them - and those seeking help, know the ones with the means and resources are being selfish and NOT delivering.

Allow to me say this, we can create all the programs we want, get all the great degrees and JOBS (Journeys of the Broke), read and commentate on everyone’s else's life (versus building one of our own), even continue to ingest the rhetoric of broke people, poor mindsets and continue to seek out the opinions of those who really desire nothing more than to be comfortable... and don't have a dream to give you to replace the one you gave up on ... However, I promise you - while you’re looking for an excuse, relishing in YOUR OWN comfort... there is a grave-digger looking for a plot to bury you in.

Many who follow me no I HATE excuses and I do mean HATE. They are the death of dreams, the fertilizer of selfishness and a result they become the roots of generational curses. I watch and amazing enough, many will turn around and complain about what we need more of - but won't go get it! WAKE UP, it isn't coming to you.. ITS HERE and IF YOU KEEP YOUR EYES CLOSED - like you do with everything else - YOU WILL SADLY MISS IT!

Stopping hope'n, wish'en and pray'en for relief, or a breakthrough to magically fall out of the sky. YET do nothing different when it comes! So many won't breakout, breakthrough, or walk-out God's promises (because they are watching YOU - their examples and its becoming CYCLIC) and as a result - change never happens -- and WE WONDER WHY!

Faith without works … is DEAD! DEAD.... 6FT UNDER... I DID SAY DEAD! DONE! FINITO!

If you look around, our actions clearly indicate that were not only too comfortable, we are too casual , and won't do the real work... we WANT to remain in the rat race, spin our wheels in the same systems that are BOLDY, TELLING YOU - FAILURE IS THE END RESULT... were heading back to the great depression.... and going NO WHERE FAST... Allow me for a few more minutes to as my daughter would say "keep it 100". THIS IS YOUR WAKE UP CALL - RISE TO THE OCCASION!!

Look around? How many people around you are hurting? How does it feel to have the ability and knowledge to help change a family's life and still DO NOTHING with it? Perhaps you have it all made in the shade - well if you DO - YOUR HELP is really needed! WAKE UP. It's NO LONGER ABOUT YOU! IT'S JUST NOT! I don't care what you do -YOU CAN HELP someone else and it’s time to change legacies and GENERATIONS - DO THAT!

I don't go to funerals anymore. I can't take the despair or death of dreams or ingest the stories of could've, would've, should've. I don't wish to see people shedding tears of regret, falling out over a coffins, and ultimately fighting over the bills NOT wills.. Uncle or Auntie, Momma, or Daddy didn't prepare of have what they need to take care of the generations coming behind them and watch another wasted life get placed 6 feet under... THE LIVING NEEDS YOU - NOW!

What will you leave behind? What will you be known for? Whose life will you change? What EXAMPLE will you have SET? It's time out for the excuses!! PERIOD!!

This weekend, the Tsunami (Chinaza) is coming to Charlotte, NC (www.thefirmblackout.com) with a proven solution that is changing lives and empowering change - 10 YEARS OF GREATNESSS I might add!

It's time to BE ABOUT IT. Join me on this assignment that CANNOT be accomplished alone! Don't miss this. We know everyone can’t be saved. In the words of my brother Orlanda "It's going down". For those that want to get onboard. Information is FREE and its cost you nothing to obtain it. It could cost you everything to stand by and DO NOTHING!

Wake up, open your eyes… break out and stop searching for and/or making excuses. Take the first step and change SOMEONE else's life (and yours will change dramatically by default in the process – as will your finances)...

Those who have no vision of their own – will perish and remain a slave to someone else's..... Yes, it's lonely at the top and that's okay... I’d personally rather go there…. then to have company at the bottom...

DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT. IF YOUR IN CHARLOTTE THIS WEEKEND (JUNE 12, 2011)... ITS YOUR TIME!

See you soon!!!